The Basics
Look your best
Look fresh
Appear with styled hair. Trimmed beard for men
A spritz of fragrance (Jo Malone , mens or womens)
What to wear
Clothing that’s clean with no stains
Casual chic works well but if you have a particular style ( boho ,everyday classic,
streetwear, artsy) by all means wear it , making sure it’s pulled together.
Locale
Your matchmaker will more than likely be making arrangements for your first
However if you are uncomfortable for any reason for the selected location be honest with
your matchmaker and it will be changed.
Coffee shops are great for first meetings . They are quiet and it’s easy to spot who
You’re looking for.
If you decide a Happy Hour rendezvous it’s recommended to limit alcohol
consumption.
The Greeting
Greet your match with a warm smile , a handshake and good eye contact. Good posture
and confidant body language makes an positive impression.
Politeness and good manners are invaluable.
Small talk is practically unavoidable. Have you been here before? Did you get caught in
traffic? A comment about the weather.
Breaking the Ice
You can refer to the Biodata: ”I saw you attended State U.” Let the conversation flow
naturally and RELAX! Let responses from basic questions take you to deeper
conversation.
Your Matchmaker will have ice breakers waiting for you as part of organizing your meet up .
You can choose whether to use them or not. They can provide interesting responses and humor.
Become an Expert Listener
Becoming a good listener requires practice and finesse. As your match expresses themselves focus on what they are saying. Make good eye contact and don’t interrupt. Don’t be thinking about what you’ll say next. If you’re are not paying attention to what they are saying imagine the loss of credibility you’ll exhibit when your response is irrelevant to your match’s comments. On the other hand your match will be pleasantly pleased if you respond with something poignant and meaningful to his or her thoughts. Either way, listen with intent. Don’t forget to show body language that conveys interest in what your match is saying.
Conversation
Balance
You may be a very verbal individual. That’s great! Your match will know how you feel and where you stand. Just be sure you do not dominate the conversation. Give your match an equal opportunity to share.
Content
Avoid talking about religion or politics unless either of these are deal breakers or mandatory desires. Your Matchmaker will be aware of these prior to selecting your match. Still, its advisable to avoid talking about either of these subjects on your first date .Keep the content of your conversation upbeat and positive.
Ending the Encounter
if you feel the date went well you can by all means ask for another date. Proceed with whatever you are comfortable with. For instance you can broach the subject with the following: “You mentioned you wanted to go the the XYZ Gallery”, Id like to go there too. Either way end the date date with politeness and remember you can reach out to your matchmaker on how to proceed.
Don’t forget… Devoted Matchmaker Services clients use our ” Dating Feedback Form” to get detailed feedback after any date!
My goal is to help you find “The One” …if you need help with *any* of THE BASICS, contact me for a free 30-minute consultation! DevotedMMServices@gmail.com